Momma Rancher
Let's talk about dreams.
I am a dreamer, I have been since childhood. I see things how I think they could be and even if it takes a long time, I have goals that I intend to see through. Sometimes, the projects that have to happen in ranching and life take up a lot of time. Being a wife and mom is so much fun and is something I consider a privilege. But at times, it can feel like I will never accomplish my goals if they are outside of my daily activities.
I'm guessing I am not the only one who feels this way. Let me be clear, it is a beautiful thing to have a visionary mindset because not everyone does. It is totally fine to hang on to the dreams you had before having kids. There is however, a piece of this that can become obsessive. It is very important to not let the dreams become a focal point that makes or breaks your life. I have to remind myself of this so that I can remember what is most important. I am a mother first. Before all my goals and dreams, comes the welfare of my child. Setting aside some of my own desires, in order to be a present and nurturing mom is a welcome sacrifice. Whether it's a meeting I have, cleaning I need to do or some fun event, I am a mom first. I realize this seems so obvious. Of course why wouldn't you be a mom first? Let me explain. I am sympathizing with the strugglers and educating those who don't. A good example of what I am talking about is this. Let's say you are working to clean something in the house, you start the project, and then a little one starts crying. An extremely focused and driven person can easily fall into a mindset of "I'll just finish this one thing". I get it, and I have to remind myself to be extremely careful with this. Finishing one thing can quickly turn into finishing ten other things, which can turn you into a non present parent. Kids don't pause in their growth and development just so you can "finish your one thing". The time we have with our children is fleeting, and we have limited years to love and nurture them. Holding motherhood in high regard has been lost in society and we desperately need to fight to be present and loving mothers. Success of the next generation depends on us for this.
The idea of being a driven person or a visionary while also being a successful mom is not an idea that everyone gets on board with. In my opinion this is because both things take work to balance and be healthy. So my first thought in response is don't be afraid of the work. Sure things get overwhelming at times, but that is just part of the learning and growing on how to balance. Be a present mother, be a visionary. The things that can be accomplished by embracing both are incredible.
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